“The world is divided into people who love to watch sunsets and those who don’t”. I heard this line in a Pierce Brosnan movie. Though I find the dialogues in movies very cheesy; this one certainly made sense to me. I know a lot of people who are always restless, not happy with the life they have, always complaining and thinking – what if it never happened, what I could have achieved in life and blah blah… They are never the ones who would love watching a sunset. You have to be at peace with yourself to admire something as beautiful and painfully slow as a sunset. I must confess that certain parts of me belong to this not so likeable category. And such people die with thousands regrets and only hundreds of smiles to count (Now I am worried.)
And then there are those happy with what life gives them. And I always ask myself, “Don’t they regret, like – ever! Are they fully content?” I am sure they do resent once in a while but the regrets never overpower the happiness they find in random routine things. Content – I don’t think so because they do strive to achieve their goals BUT they do not spoil their today for what existed in past or what the future holds. I feel the biggest differentiator here is acceptance. When you start accepting your life, the events in it and concentrating on what’s at hand… the regrets do diminish a bit. This does not mean giving up!! This means being realistic about life, looking forward to the future without sacrificing the joys of today.
But is it easy?? I bet not.
I am trying to do this every single day and believe me, on most days I fail miserably. Another regret in the tally (sigh!). But the good thing is that there are days when I succeed in thwarting the inside demons and find happiness in simple things like washing laundry, cooking dinner, my son’s bratty behavior or my husband’s obsession with the laptop at home. And then there are perks as well – the sudden lovely kisses my son gives me without saying a single word and still conveying that he loves me for being there or an understanding smile from my husband while listening to my daily ramblings which I am sure is not easy :) So I am trying to find an inroad where I can enjoy sunset and once in a while not like it too.