With extreme pleasure and happiness, I bring to you the blogger who is one of my favorites. She is fiery, she is feisty, doesn’t mince words when it comes to fighting for the right cause and at the same time extremely sensitive and humble. And a great friend too. So Ladies and Gentlemen, please welcome Rachna of the Rachna Says who I am sure you are already familiar with. But if you are not, you’ve got to checkout her blog which is not only a happy place but also very socially aware. Every time I visit her blog, I learn something new. Without much delay, I pass on the dais to Rachna who in this guest post writes about the importance of routine and discipline.
Thanks Rachna for writing a thought provoking piece especially for me.
As much as we hate a set path, a routine is what our heart and mind desires. A few days out of the home on vacation and don’t you crave your simple daily routine minus the exotica of resorts and adventure of traveling? I do! I crave to be back at my desk with my reliable wi-fi in my pajamas. Yes, life is an adventure, but we would rather approach it through a known and comforting path.
And setting the routine requires a lot of effort, trust me. As soon as the child is born, doctor advises that the mother set a routine. Feed them at regular intervals and not haphazardly. When you begin potty training, you take them every few hours to the toilet and gently prod them to go. You also put them to bed at the same time so that they get used to falling asleep the same time every day. It makes life easier for both of you. And as they grow older, you expand this discipline in their lives. They have to finish studies at a given hour, play only an hour of their favorite video game, be back home by a given time, so on and so forth. Your kids will plead with you, emotionally blackmail you to be lenient and even hate you for setting deadlines. It will be much later in their lives when they will thank you and even appreciate you for it. At least I am banking on the same J.
Strangely, discipline is somehow equated with a cuss word. Immediately images of Lalita-Pawaresque expressions and spanking come to mind. Most of us were brought up with loving moms and strict dads who used less of cuddling and more of stern expressions and serious looks. My mom’s favorite line to calm a bunch of crazy kids was, “Wait till your father gets home in the evening!” Oh that sobered whatever mischief we were up to. Dad was very fair in handing out the punishments. No matter who was in the wrong, all the crybabies got equal punishment. Intelligent as we were, we quickly figured out that all sibling troubles, especially tattling and complaints must not be taken to dad.
Surprisingly discipline is looked at as an assault on independence which it is not. On the contrary, unless we teach our children the importance of discipline and a routine in their lives, they are sure to falter later. Imagine what would happen when they are adults themselves? With the absence of parental authority, they will take their messed up lifestyle a step further into chaos. Look at the adults around you who have no qualms in watching TV till late nights. They are stuck to their gadgets all the time. They are indisciplined in their eating habits and other activities and unconsciously pass them on to their children. It is not preaching that works but living what you preach that does. And then we wonder about brash brats and a generation that battles health issues. Well who is to blame – Mr. and Ms. Cribbing parent?
Why is it difficult to enforce discipline? Because which kid does not like a messy room, socks on the sofa, school bag thrown around and eating chips, burgers and colas for lunch and dinner. There are some mothers who go around picking up after them. And that is an incentive for them to be more organized? Then there are those who feel that the easier way out is to feed the kid what he/she demands instead of inculcating healthy eating habits that surely need more time and persuasion.
Yes, independence is really important. And we all want our children to be independent, thinking individuals. But independence does not come at the cost of going about your life in a confused manner. Indiscipline makes you unorganized. The single biggest advantage in leading a disciplined life is that it pulls you back when you overindulge or are about to go over the edge. Yes please find time to be around to enforce a certain discipline in your child’s life! And remember charity begins at home! Show some discipline of your own while you are at it!